Offering Condolence
  10 December 2003

In one of the examples in the last column, somebody missed a social engagement because of a death in his/her family. To take up on that theme, this week we will look at letters giving condolence.

When your colleague, friend or acquaintance has had bad news: i.e. divorce, losing parents, child, spouse, pet, losing jobs, or having a terminal illness, you should offer your sympathy. One way to do it is to send the person a letter offering condolence as in the example below :

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Brown,

I am sorry to have learned about your son's untimely passing. I wish I could offer more solace to both of you.

Please accept my sincere condolence for your loss.


With greatest sympathy,


Lynn Young


It is very difficult to write this kind of letter. You should offer as much support as you can without repeating the bad news.

Here are some expressions you can use:

The news of your….(divorce, cancer diagnosis, redundancy) came to me as a shock.
I am very sad/sorry to learn of your loss.
I wish to offer you my deepest sympathy.
I wish I could share your sorrow.